Inevitably, there is difficulty in our relationships, whether it be with family, friends, co-workers, or romantic partners. Often, issues in our relationships arise when our typical ways of responding to conflict are unhealthy and don’t lead to resolutions. These ways of responding to others are influenced by many factors: personality, temperament, perceived level of trust and safety, past experiences, and other factors. Often the people to whom we feel closest are the ones we find ourselves in conflict with the most. This may be due to fears of losing the relationship or losing our autonomy. In the moment we might act in ways that are meant to protect the relationship or ourselves but ultimately have negative long-term consequences.